is challenging? takes time? starts with self? is essential? is exalted and beyond our capacity?
all of the above and more?
Here’s a favorite quote of mine about forgiveness.
“Forgiveness is the fragrance that the violet sheds on the heel that has crushed it.”-Mark Twain
Forgiveness does smell sweet. It feels good to everyone involved. My cats forgive me daily for not spending every second with them, for feeding them cans of food that aren’t as good as the others, but healthier, for dividing my love between the two of them. And Seva, the younger, forgives me for giving her sub-cutaneous fluids with a large and painful needle. She never hisses or growls.
The other characteristic of forgiveness is that it’s natural. How about our bodies? They forgive us for eating foods that aren’t healing or medicinal, for drinking alcohol, doing drugs, for thinking negatively. They naturally forgive our ignorance and abuse. What about the Earth? The Earth has been so forgiving! She’s offered her body like a classroom where men and women are invited to practice evolving. That’s love!
When we align with a greater intention, literally pull ourselves into the realm of spirit, we naturally forgive. It’s the freer expression and we naturally desire freedom over imprisonment by our own thoughts.
This Holiday Season, write down the names of all those you wish to forgive, or be forgiven by, and then one by one, mark their names off the list. It feels amazing. Practice saying, “I’m sorry. I made a mistake. I’ve been a terrible…partner, lover, daughter, brother, sister, father, mother, etc. I’m really sorry.” Check out this story about forgiveness.
Perhaps consider chanting this mantra over the 2012 Winter Solstice, as you consider the many ways in which you have contributed to the pain and suffering in the world. We’re moments away!
I love you. I’m sorry. Please forgive me. Thank you.